Why Regret?

“Because no battles are ever won” he said, “they are not even fought. The field only reveals to man his own folly and despair, and victory is an allusion of philosophers and fools.”

Some people just enter your life and some randomly slip into it. With some people you have to make extra efforts while some become a part of your existence so effortlessly. With every new person that enters your life, the equation you have with the others who already are a part of it changes. Irrespective of how random your feelings are towards any or all of them, each and every person you meet or accidently run into has a role to play. I also believe that however painful it is but each of them exit your life at some point or the other. What makes some people special is whether they care to come back or not. And what makes some people more special than the others is whether they do.

At least that is what I believe in.

Sometimes we meet people who we want should be a part of the super special clan. We want them so badly in our lives that we over analyze situations. We mix emotions and fumble with words we could convey so comfortably to people who mean absolutely nothing to us. We see more, we feel more, we sense more and we fear much more.

So when these special people choose to leave, we let them walk away because we love them so.. so much. We stand and wait till that one last time they turn around for that one last glance. We secretly search for that one look that would plead us to make them stay. But because of our inherent fear of rejection, lack of reciprocation or simply being the hot topic for societal grapevine we are tricked into believing that we should not or don’t have the “right” to stop them. And so we don’t.

We wait a little longer until they are completely out of sight and gone out of our lives forever. We don’t give up even when everything that matters is crumbling inside. We are so blinded by this fear that we choose to remain silent than give away the insecurities without realizing that a chance can be taken because both of them come at an equal cost.

We learn to laugh, we move on with time but we regret and feel guilty for the unknown. In the darkness of that empty room we find the strength to face that darkness within us that is too afraid to face the light of reality. We dream, we reminisce and we remember the old times; that one last look, the final glance, the lingering after the last kiss - the moment when everything around us froze. But we don’t do anything to get it back.

A person can either want to be a part of someone’s life or not. It’s a choice – a black or white one. What we don’t realize is that it is a choice that both the counterparts make. If you want them in your life then why not stop them? It might be too late but it is the one who is being left who has to decide whether the one leaving is worth the try. People who choose to stay will do anything to do so and those who do not are better off not returning back again. Similarly, people who dare to stop them from leaving are the ones who are worth returning to.

It’s only after they have left that we realize that sometimes moving on is not an option and some goodbyes really are forever.

So don’t worry if you are right or wrong, make a choice today. Hold on to your super special someones and tell them how much you need them in your life. Fight with them but then hug them before they turn away. Love them when they least deserve it because that’s when they need it the most. Don’t wonder whether you have the right to. Demand what is rightfully yours; and also those who rightfully belong to you.

Dare to dive because many those who fear the fall are crippled already. Count your blessings because you are truly blessed for having fallen. Make mistakes but don’t regret them because at one point of time it was really what you wanted and did it exactly how you wanted to. Remember the tragedy of life is not that it ends so soon, but that we wait so long to begin it.

Have an awesome day ahead!